Author: eisleyhallows
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finding my niche
for the first months of my journey as a changeworker, i swore i’d never niche down. “there are way too many interesting things about me,” i said. “there’s no way i could ever pick just one.” maybe that was very october libra of me. maybe it was my demand avoidance. see, since becoming a life…
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i feel like a pedestrian in a world of bmws.
i will get where i am going, walking in my own power. one foot in front of the other, i will reach my destination. today i speak in metaphor. for those just now tuning in, i am currently building my business from scratch. i come from a long line of strong but financially challenged women,…
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if you want to be free from the patriarchy, you have to stop hating men.
i know you probably have a list a mile long of reasons why you could hate all men forever and never feel bad about it. it is time to recognize that living your life through this lens of trauma responses is only perpetuating your own suffering, and holding back all of our liberation. as a…
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on dopamine
the past few days have felt like i’m moving through peanut butter on all levels. the first of the week went really well for me. i met a huge goal, aced an interview, and generally felt great! and then the calamities happened. nothing like new and horrible, but internally, every system that can be going…
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don’t like scheduling. i move with rhythms instead
when i first found out i had adhd, i was ravenous for knowledge. i wanted to know everything i could know about working with this neurotype, now that i’d finally been diagnosed. one of the most consistent things i found was “you need structure. schedule your days.” and like i tried it. it worked for…
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on being called intimidating
i’ve been told this on more than one occasion, and it always, always confuses me. i see myself as soft, plush, welcoming, and understanding. how can i be intimidating when my arms are almost always open to whatever you’re bringing to the table? you are intimidated, so i am intimidating. does that have to be…
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came close to losing my streak.
doing big things requires lots of energy, and not just physically. mentally too. and, writing here is important to me. sometimes it feels like outreach, sometimes it feels like a diary. doing this every day helps me recenter. i didn’t make that time for myself, consciously, today. but i did get a lot done. one…
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finding my lion heart
yesterday i did a big thing and asked for help. today i realized i did not once say please. i was angry at my situation, angry with myself, terrified, and these conditions do not make a good foundation for being polite… but they do make the perfect one for action. my need of $1350 was…
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on figuring out that i’m gay
when i was in second or third grade, i learned the word “lesbian” from the neighbor next door, and i was instantly enraptured in it. i think i asked her two or three other times what it meant, over the next couple months. i’m not sure if i simply could not remember the meaning of…