Author: eisleyhallows
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the 7 phases of shadow integration: my theories on sustainable shadow work
when i first began exploring shadow work years ago, i noticed something fascinating: there seemed to be a natural rhythm to how people’s relationship with their shadow changed when they engaged with it effectively. this wasn’t a linear checklist—it was more like a spiral, moving upward while occasionally revisiting familiar territory from new perspectives. after…
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“who am i now?”: navigating the identity void in shadow work
that moment when you realize the person you thought you were doesn’t actually exist. it’s one of the most disorienting experiences in shadow work, and surprisingly, one of the least discussed. you’ve peeled back the layers of who you thought you were, examined the patterns that have shaped your life, and suddenly find yourself in…
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beyond awareness: how shadow integration actually happens
you know that moment in shadow work where something clicks? you finally see a pattern that’s been running your life since you were ten years old. you have this massive breakthrough, maybe even cry about it, and feel like everything is going to be different now. and then… you’re stuck. you understand what’s happening, but…
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finding my niche
for the first months of my journey as a changeworker, i swore i’d never niche down. “there are way too many interesting things about me,” i said. “there’s no way i could ever pick just one.” maybe that was very october libra of me. maybe it was my demand avoidance. see, since becoming a life…
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i feel like a pedestrian in a world of bmws.
i will get where i am going, walking in my own power. one foot in front of the other, i will reach my destination. today i speak in metaphor. for those just now tuning in, i am currently building my business from scratch. i come from a long line of strong but financially challenged women,…
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if you want to be free from the patriarchy, you have to stop hating men.
i know you probably have a list a mile long of reasons why you could hate all men forever and never feel bad about it. it is time to recognize that living your life through this lens of trauma responses is only perpetuating your own suffering, and holding back all of our liberation. as a…
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on dopamine
the past few days have felt like i’m moving through peanut butter on all levels. the first of the week went really well for me. i met a huge goal, aced an interview, and generally felt great! and then the calamities happened. nothing like new and horrible, but internally, every system that can be going…
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don’t like scheduling. i move with rhythms instead
when i first found out i had adhd, i was ravenous for knowledge. i wanted to know everything i could know about working with this neurotype, now that i’d finally been diagnosed. one of the most consistent things i found was “you need structure. schedule your days.” and like i tried it. it worked for…
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on being called intimidating
i’ve been told this on more than one occasion, and it always, always confuses me. i see myself as soft, plush, welcoming, and understanding. how can i be intimidating when my arms are almost always open to whatever you’re bringing to the table? you are intimidated, so i am intimidating. does that have to be…
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came close to losing my streak.
doing big things requires lots of energy, and not just physically. mentally too. and, writing here is important to me. sometimes it feels like outreach, sometimes it feels like a diary. doing this every day helps me recenter. i didn’t make that time for myself, consciously, today. but i did get a lot done. one…